“Do not give your strength to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings.” – Hebrew proverb
“Do you not know how uncontrolled and unreliable the average human being is in all that concerns sexual life?” – Sigmund Freud
This wisdom extends to women as well. Exchange the word “women” to “men” in the previous quote and follow my line of thought. With my energy being limited, like all of my resources, I must allocate it with economy. Pursuing the opposite sex with abandon can open black holes that will swallow my impetus quickly, leaving me lacking the necessary resources to handle my responsibilities and weakening my resolve to improve myself. Relationships take work, and in this case, the amount of time, energy, and money expended to chase the opposite sex is more than most care to admit. Those obvious and quantifiable things are of small consequence compared to the drama and headaches brought into lives as a result of that pursuit. Is this what I want for my life? Will this pursuit of pleasure allow me to pass anything on to this world, this generation, or generations beyond? These costs are generally ignored at the beginning of that long slippery slope of pursuit.
There are those throughout history, mighty, rich and powerful people, who ignoring this wisdom, fell victim to the opposite sex, experiencing the ruin of reputation, finances, and power. Certain men, listed among those unfortunate, had women, even hundreds of women, and yet were never satisfied and would constantly put themselves at risk to go after the elusive “one”. Women are not exempt, examples being recorded of women giving their households, honor, bodies, and even their life chasing down a man. Nations, tribes, families, friendships have all suffered under the harsh sentence of spiritual, physical, and financial bankruptcy given by the lustful exuberant overlooking of this well documented lesson. Here is wisdom: the obtaining of sexual or flirtatious conquests is a loaded gun that can bleed my resources and eventually maim my ability to succeed. I’m guilty of ignoring this wisdom, like so many, but I hope to count the cost, and approach the future of my relationships with an eye toward the end.